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It's been almost six years since I had an abortion. I can't believe it's been so long, and it's been hard for me to accept that it was probably the worst decision I've made in my entire life. I chose convenience over more important things, including my health. However, I didn't think that way when I went to my local health center nor when I took the pill that got rid of my first child.

Back at the time, I had just turned 18 when I got the news that I was pregnant—on November 2015. I was upset, because I had just broken up with my then boyfriend and I didn't feel like talking to him, much less starting a family with him. Besides, I was planning to move to London the next year for work and felt having a baby would ruin my plans.

After a couple of weeks of pondering, I decided that an abortion was the best decision. I didn't want to tell my family, but my mother and a friend of mine found out anyways. Unfortunately, they didn't tell anyone and were very supportive of my decision. They didn't let me go through everything on my own, even though my mum was very sad about it.

Not to justify myself, because now I feel like sh*t for having done so, but I was so keen on moving to London because I was going to meet a cousin that I hadn't seen in a long time and also my quality of life would increase a lot. I would have a well paid job in hospitality and would have the opportunity to do many things that I could not have done here in Albania, as it's one of the poorest countries in Europe and me and my family grew up with a lot of shortcomings. 

I ended up moving to London as planned and had a good time there. Also, I had the chance to send money to my family. Nevertheless, I ended up returning to Albania last year because of the pandemic, which made me eventually realise that I had messed up big time by having AN abortion. That was the moment when my torment started.

Age: 24
Location: Albania
Date: November 5, 2021