Abortion Story: Pittsburgh, PA
Submitted to Abort73 by a 21-year-old woman on December 22, 2013.
This is not an abortion-regrets story. But it could soon wind up that way. This woman writes from the throes of indecision. She has a visit to the abortion clinic scheduled for Friday, but is asking for help in making the decision...
After being a week and a half late for my period, suspicion came about. I told the guy who I have been "fooling around with.” He immediately went and bought a pregnancy test. After eagerly waiting eight hours to take the test (because I had been working). I rushed over to his house to take it. I waited for my urine to clear the screen… My heart sunk. I immediately felt confused. It wasn't even a week ago that I found out this amazing guy that I had been involved with had a girlfriend the entire time. I cried, I'm not ready for this. I already have a three year old who I have raised on my own since day one. I can't do this again; I can't raise a second child on my own. I'm a single mom, working for ten dollars an hour. I'm not mentally or financially prepared for this… We considered our options, abortion being the most favored. We called a clinic and scheduled an appointment; first step is to take their pregnancy test and have a sonogram to see how far along I am. That appointment is this Friday. I've never felt so lost and alone in my life. I have this guy who's stood beside me since finding out, but he doesn't understand how emotional this decision has been. I've been sitting by myself for the last hour crying my heart out, researching and reading others' stories to maybe help make my decision a little easier. Honestly, it's only become harder. I don't want another child of mine to come from a broken home. I want a family for my child. My children. If I have this baby, I will struggle to provide for not just one but now two. I have a bigger family to complete. Possibly a loss of all sanity, and my home will no longer be home. If I go through with the abortion, it's already been made clear how I will react to it. I've become an emotional wreck already and no official plans have been made. I know this site is to tell your story; my story just happens to be unfinished. I'm seeking for help in making the right decision. I'm so torn and keeping it a secret is only making me feel alone in the matter.
On December 29, we received the following update:
I posted a week ago with my story; I thought an update would be nice, seeing as so many of you guys read my story and reached out to me with your words of wisdom. I went through with the appointment Friday; I'm seven weeks along and the baby has a strong heart beat of 141. I want to thank all of you who have encouraged me. I'm very happy to share that I have decided to keep the baby. We're faced with challenges often but only because God knows that those of us who accept the challenge will get through it. After two bad experiences happening the last two days, one ending with my car being totaled, I'm left to believe that the big man upstairs is no doubt looking out for me—and my unborn child. If I wasn't meant to have it, he would work his magic and end this pregnancy naturally. God bless all of you who responded to my post when I was in desperate need of help. I don't usually reach out, but this was one thing that I needed to reach out for. It has been a difficult decision, but my baby is expected to make its appearance August 14th. For those of you who read carefully and saw that I already have a little girl, that was also her original due date. :) How ironic!? Thank you all again, SO MUCH!
Location: Pittsburgh, PA
Date: December 22, 2013