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While I didn't actually have an abortion, my wife did. I was born and raised in Chicago in a highly religious family. I attended church every Sunday and I am still an active member. I met my wife in high school and we've been inseparable since. I joined the marines after I graduated and we were married before I was deployed. I found out my wife was pregnant when I returned. At first I thought that she'd cheated on me because I had been gone for 18 months, then she explained the entire story. While I was away, she was raped by an ex-boyfriend. He was caught but she was left pregnant by the attack. When she told me I was furious. I felt like my time overseas was for nothing. I had fought for my country and for my family's freedom only to come back and learn that it had all been taken while I was away. My wife had a different attitude. She accepted her attack and the child that resulted from it. She expected me to support her decision and carry the child to term. I was selfish and I just wanted things to be the way they were before I left. I told her that she should abort the child for my sake. I said that it was unfair to me because the child that she carried wasn't mine. Eventually she gave in and got the abortion. I didn't even drive her to the clinic. When she came home, she glared at me and cried. She wouldn't even speak to me the rest of the day. What really made it hit home was when she told me that at least the baby was in heaven and away from the cruel world that caused it's conception. When she said that I knew I had made a terrible mistake. I had led to a mother taking her child's life. I felt like the lowest scum in the world. The man who had raped my wife took her security but I went a step beyond that. I had taken her child, her flesh, her blood. My wife and I are still together but we had to receive counseling.'the first sessions were hard but we eventually started to cope with our loss. If it wasn't for our involvement in the church, our progress would have slowed considerably. We have decided to have children of a own someday and we now counsel newlywed couples. It's been a rough journey but we made it.

Age: 25
Location: Chicago, IL
Date: September 19, 2010