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I had an abortion in April of last year. I had an abortion because my boyfriend told me a baby would destroy his life. I had an abortion because he said I had manipulated him. I had an abortion because my mother said I had to have an abortion—because the man’s decision is crucial, and it’s important that both partners want the child. I had an abortion because my mother told me it would be selfish to have a child with my work schedule. I had an abortion because my mother would not help me raise the child. I had an abortion because my father told me that he and my mom can’t do me any favors. I had an abortion because I can work up to 80 hours a week as a medical resident. I had an abortion because my life has been whittled down to work and money. I had an abortion because the American system has taught me that independence is essential. I had an abortion because only a community can raise a child. I had an abortion not because I wanted one; I had an abortion for my ex-boyfriend, my mother, and my father.

But I didn’t want an abortion. All I wanted to be when I grew up was a mother. All I wanted was to have a family. I did this for other people. If you have a sister or a friend or a daughter who is pregnant, ask THEM what THEY want. I broke up with my boyfriend after it happened, and I have cut my mother and father out of my life for my mental well-being. This was never my choice. If you force someone to do this because you believe this is best for that person, you will hurt them in unbelievable ways. I would have laid down my life for my child; I would have done whatever it would have taken. I had the abortion not because I didn’t think I could do raise a child—I can do whatever I set my mind to; I had the abortion, for my ex-boyfriend and my mother. So if your loved one becomes pregnant, get rid of your opinions, your judgements, and ask them in open air, not behind closed doors where your voice is hidden. Ask them, “What do you want? And how can I help you?” The abortion was not my choice, and the aftermath has affected many people. Please listen to what the woman wants.

I had an abortion.

Age: 30
Location: Massachusetts
Date: July 22, 2017