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I lost my virginity when I was a senior in high school. I was 17 at the time, having sex with someone who I thought loved me. I became pregnant the first time I had sex. I thought that it would never happen to me. The father constantly told me that if I loved him, I would show him I loved him and I would give myself to him. As a young and naive kid, I listened. When I found out I was pregnant, I was torn. I was living with a very strict family member. There was no way I would be able to have a child while living there. So I turned to the father, who immediately turned on me.

I kept my pregnancy a secret for as long as I could before I eventually had to tell someone. The person I confided in advised me to get an abortion, just as the father had. When I had my first doctor’s appointment, I was cold all around. This was my time to see if I could keep my unborn child or have an abortion. While talking to someone there, they told me I was on my way to college and that having a child would be a bad idea. So I went along with the process.

The next week, my ninth week of pregnancy, was when I had the procedure. It was the most painful thing I've ever experienced. To this day, I can still feel them taking my baby out of me. I still feel the pain of my child. But I could not deal with a child on my own. I had no help.

I regret the decision more today than I did then because I took the easy way out. I am at the point where I can now face the financial responsibilities of a child. I just did not give it a chance. I was weak, and I gave up on my child. That will always be my biggest regret.

Age: 19
Location: Chicago, IL
Date: November 18, 2015