Abortion Stories (California)
Personal testimonies from women (and men) who have gone through an abortion.
The unsolicited abortion stories on these pages have come to Abort73 through our online submission form. Though not all women regret their abortions, these stories demonstrate that countless women do.
"I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant. I had been dating my ex-boyfriend for two months. I always dreamed of becoming a mother; I was shocked but happy when I found out. The doctor did an ultrasound, and it seemed surreal. My ex-boyfriend was there with me. As soon as we left the clinic, he immediately told me an abortion would be the best choice. I was devastated when I heard him say that.…"
Date: December 28, 2014
"I have always been so kind to others and have always put them before anything. But I finally got to the point where I was sick of that. So I decided I'd start doing better for myself. As a result, I found out I was pregnant. But due to my job and what others would think—and because I wasn't in love by the father of the baby—I decided to abort. I went to Planned Parenthood with the…"
Date: November 14, 2014
"You never get over having an abortion—even after almost 4 decades. I didn't believe in abortion, but I was a casualty of the pressure to do it from my family. They didn't want the added burden, and I was told I would have to leave the house. I caved, and I take full responsibility for what I did. I wish it was illegal; I would have been forced to let them live. I took two lives and ask…"
Date: August 20, 2014
"June 2 is a day I will never forget. It’s the day I decided to go through with the second part of my abortion pill. I decided to take the abortion pill because I thought it would be more private. My boyfriend was the only one that knew I was getting it done. But since he is a camp counselor during the summer, he wouldn't be able to be there for me. This meant I only had myself to go through…"
Date: July 11, 2014
"My biggest fear at 36 is not being able to have a child. I told myself I’d keep the next one. Well, I got my wish, and I freaked out. My boyfriend of only two months already had three kids from two different baby mamas. He was a great guy and good looking. We would have a cute, multi-ethic child. I told him, and he wanted me to get an abortion. He didn’t want three baby mamas and…"
Location: Newport Beach, CA
Date: June 26, 2014
"I'm 18; my boyfriend is 16. I got pregnant two months ago and found out at 5 weeks and 3 days—on February 4, 2014. I was so excited but scared. A few friends knew; so did my boyfriend, along with his parents and mine. We were so happy. Eventually, it all came to an end. His parents threatened to press charges against me, and I wasn't in the best living arrangement. I felt forced and bullied.…"
Date: February 28, 2014
"A few years back, when I was 21, I got pregnant. I was so happy and so was my husband, but then three weeks later, my husband started saying it was my fault that I was pregnant and told me to abort. So did my mother and my dad. My friends said to keep the baby, but I didn't want to ruin my relationship. I gave it a lot of thought, and I cried. I didn't know what to do, but then I called the abortion…"
Location: Mira Loma, CA
Date: December 31, 2013
"We had been together for nine months when I found out I was pregnant. I felt a mixture of emotions. I was happy to be carrying a child with a man I loved, whom loved me back. But most of what I was feeling was fear.... I got an ultrasound at 5 weeks, and the lady who was performing my ultrasound told me that my “fetus” did not yet have a heartbeat.... I felt like I suddenly had an…"
Date: December 6, 2013
"Abortion is murder. Hating someone in your heart is murder. I am guilty of both. While at a christian college in my very early 20’s I became pregnant by a boyfriend my family was none too happy I had. I knew I shouldn’t have been having sex. I didn’t even really love my boyfriend, even by the vague standards I had then. I was filling a void, temporarily meeting my needs on a…"
Date: November 25, 2013
"I found out I was pregnant in March, 2013. I was excited but scared. I already had a 3 year old and was separated from his father, but I was also excited because I felt I was doing this pregnancy differently—by being married first, then getting pregnant. I remember going to Walmart and buying a cheap pregnancy test. It was right around the time they put out all the decorations for Easter.…"
Location: Oxnard, CA
Date: November 1, 2013
"I found out I was pregnant at 19 years old. Me? I couldn't possibly have his baby! I didn't love him. I still lived at home and was moving in three weeks; my parents were going to kill me! I went out with friends the night I found out, and tried to drink the positive test right out of me. The next morning, it felt like a dream, but I was still pregnant. I told him I had no intention of having…"
Location: San Diego, CA
Date: July 29, 2013
"I made the appointment knowing I was wrong. I knew I didn’t want to do this, I knew I was killing my baby... I didn’t know how I could explain to this little person that no one wanted him, his dad didn’t, his grandparents called him a monster because he was mixed. How do I explain why we live in my car? How could I keep him safe with no roof or food? How could I even stay safe…"
Location: San Jose, CA
Date: June 27, 2013
"You may think you know what I’m about to say, but you don’t know my story. I decided to share it because my heart bleeds for the many, many women, children and families that are affected as a result of having an abortion. It’s far more complex than what you might believe... My reasons for being pro-choice were based largely on fears and ‘what ifs’ of possible scenarios…"
Location: Escondido, CA
Date: April 15, 2013
"I remember the day I found out I was pregnant with you, sitting in my bathtub, my eyes filled with tears staring at the stick as those two blue lines come up. I was overwhelmed with soo much emotion but mostly I was terrified. In fact I just sat there and cried for about 3 hours not knowing what to do next. The first person I told about you is a really good friend of mine, his name is Lenard.…"
Location: Los Angeles
Date: May 23, 2012
"The late summer and fall of 1984 changed my life forever. A child was conceived. A child was aborted. My future husband was wounded in ways he didn’t begin to understand at the time. I was crushed. And it wasn’t even my child. My husband and I began dating in the spring of 1984 after knowing one another for about a year and a half. I knew he had been married before, but his ex-wife…"
Location: Southern California
Date: May 19, 2012